Originally Posted by
ScottFromWI 
I think your idea to leave during the "hard drinking" portion of the party is a good one. Another possibility is to ask everyone to leave after the activities are done. They can take their hard drinking to someone else's house or a bar just as easily as they can do it at your house. Do you really want that kind of activity happening in your home now that you don't drink?
As far as your husband, it's very difficult ( if not impossible ) to explain addiction to those around us. We barely understand it ourselves. You are under no obligation to tell anyone about your drinking/not drinking - that's a personal decision you've made ( and a good one at that ) and you owe no one an explanation.
Thanks Scott. My husband would never allow me to be rude enough to ask people to leave!! He has very strong opinions on what it means to be social. Misguided, but strong opinions. I really don’t want to have “that kind of party” but there is no changing this one. We are quite popular for hosting “that kind of party”. I was able to convince hubby to cancel our holiday party this year, much to his dismay and our friends, but I don’t care about their feelings.