Sunshine...if you aren't willing to throw the small ones back...you shouldn't be fishing, in the first place.........lol.....
When you are dating...you are supposed to judge! That is what dating is for....to find out what is compatable for what you want in your life....
I am not talking about the basic worth of human life....I am talking about choosing what you want in your life...and, what is in your best welfare....
It takes a long time to get to really know another person....everyone is on their best behavior during the first few months.....you have to give a few months for the "shiny" to wear off...before you know who you are dealing with,,,,,