It can feel like a "set-up" when someone you thought you could trust turns on you in an instant.
Is it untreated alcoholism (as in he is sober but has never really sought recovery) or is he just a guy with anger issues, hard to say.
I'm going to guess you are not the first woman to say this to him and with his trigger happy anger he just blows up. You were the recipient of whatever baggage he is carrying around that relates to his self-centered view.
As for the "ghosting" that's cruel treatment as well and not something adults play at.
I just hope you see this as a learning experience and move on to the next (hopefully spectacular!) dating experience. He isn't going to change at this point and you surely can't fix whatever is troubling him.