Neyce…..please start reading those articles that I gave you the link to.....
I, also, recommend that you read the book "Co-dependent No More"....it is highly recommended around here...and has become a sort of classic...it is an easy read and I think you will derive a lot from it....
There is sooo much to know....
Knowledge is power...…
He is behaving like an alcoholic...because he is an alcoholic....and, he is controlled by the drink.....
The thing about alcoholism is that it is progressive...meaning that it will get worse over time....unless the alcoholic decides to reach for permanent sobriety, and...be willing to work a program and do the hard work that is required....The bad times will become more frequent, and last longer...and the alcoholism will totally take over the mental, physical, and, spiritual aspects of the alcoholic's life....and, worse of all...all those who surround the alcoholic will get hurt..