My husband wasn't ready when I was so I did it on my own. I can't imagine trying to do it with someone else. Its a time that requires you to be selfish. Thinking about yourself and your sobriety first, as women we tend to concentrate on our partners, children, parents, etc putting ourselves last (at least I know I always did). I would agree- do it alone. Go to rehab. If he wants it too he might make the same decision for himself. But if he doesn't- you keep going. You can do this. (p.s. Aug 1 will be my 10 year sober anniversary.)