Originally Posted by
Plenny 
Hi all.... I went to my 2nd meeting today and was approached afterwards by a woman who was way too pushy about sponsor now, steps now, and adamant that "just sitting" here was pointless. I am trying to not let it ruin my experience because I really need community and right now I just need to BE IN the rooms and 'feel' the structure before I jump into it ..... help!
Hi Plenny!! I'm sorry you had that kind of experience with AA. A few of the meetings I went to in the beginning were like that too. It really turned me off too and I didn't feel like coming back.
I don't know how many meetings you have to choose from but I had to try different groups until I found one I can somewhat identify with and where I feel accepted without having to put on a show.
I know lots of people who don't work the steps or who started with them after weeks or months.
I also needed a lot of time to just be there and get a feeling for the whole approach, the structure, the literature before I tried it with a sponsor and the steps. I no longer have a sponsor, it became conflicting with my therapy because I often got contradictory advice and it ended up confusing me.
I really hope you'll find a meeting where people are less pushy and let you be you. In the end that's what every AA chip says "To thine own self be true!" And for the whole community part AA can be great!