ways to get out the things that need to get out:
- a confession/priest/minister
-a therapist
-a peer counselor
-a sponsor/stepwork
- a good listener/friend who will not carry it as their burden
-a journal
-a crisisline volunteer on the phone
-a mental health worker
after the things that need to get out get out, chances are there is work to do. so some of those suggestions above ( not ranked in hierarchical order) are not set up for that; others are.
what are you willing to do?
for me, in the end, doing the stepwork proved to be the perfect avenue for getting the stuff out, cleaning it up and moving forward.