Wouldn't you prefer to know if someone you once loved was dying? It doesn't mean I am going to see him. He has his two wives now and step children around him. His wishes are to enjoy the time he has left and wants me to go away and enjoy my life. At least he won't be back to bother me. And the only reason I tolerated him is in case he moves back in with his aunty across the road again. Hopefully he will be dead before that happens.