it is good to remember that we are not responsible for how others take these steps. it is not up to me to decide where someone else has harmed others or themselves, though i may have strong opinions about it, 3which i also don't need to always share.
in my own instance, for example, i made some financial amend to my employer because i had used a few days sick time when i simply hadn't wanted to go in, and my sponsor person really felt there was no need to (we still disagree about that to this day)
and then there are other examples of me having to ultimately decide and know for myself who i had harmed.
'guiding' is such an interesting, rich position to be in....but also includes agency for the other.