Hi Idontget it508
I have nothing to comment on except I am from RI. Born and raised in the smallest little state. I don't live there any more but I can RELATE to what you shared about it all being connected, everyone knows everyone (or in my case is related to everyone).
I love it and for me it is "home," but part of the reason I live so far away is that I needed to learn how to be me.....not mixed in with the whole state.
Just know that I can appreciate that challenge and hope it eases up (and that me telling you even here you have a RI connection is okay).
Sending warm, healing thoughts your way.