Thanks, Dandy.
I was finally able to read your suggested materials. Reading is so hard to get to with kids around! I found myself reading the same paragraphs over and over again! haha
All of the information makes sense to me. I get "it".
I'm certainly not going to pressure him into telling my parents. Since tossing out the initial suggestion of it, I haven't breathed a word of it and I won't. It won't be helpful.
My therapist has mentioned a lot of what was mentioned in those articles (how the specific parts of the brain are affected by addiction, the inability to have a relationship with himself.....).
So anyway, my overnight bag for me and the kids has been packed and is ready. Just need to figure out a time to talk to Mom and Dad...
Thanks for everything.
More to come.....