Originally Posted by
biminiblue 
I talked to her five years after we split up, and within 15 minutes the conversation turned right back into deja vu all over again. I can't/won't go back.
Oh yes the repeated conversation...with my situation it's all about him what he's done now and if he's changed. I want to shout NO he hasn't and NO he never will. It's like Groundhog day. I mean I'll be honest this guy is one of the worst individuals I've ever met....I mean the things he's done are so disgusting and dehumanizing towards her but that doesn't bother me as much as the fact that she allows herself to be treated that way.
The most frustrating part is she gets it...she's 15 years sober herself and she knows she needs to get out of his way and that she's addicted to him...she just for whatever reason can't stop. Incredibly hard to watch.
I may have to make some decisions soon similar to what you did but gosh I so don't want to do that.