Originally Posted by
biminiblue 
Can you see how you have set yourself up as her Corrections Officer and Counselor? You're really in way over your head with Addictions Counselor; that's a specialized field, and even then with all the training, the outcome is very rarely sobriety. I've tried to play counselor. I was in way over my head, and it ended in a lost two years of my life. Never again.
Absolutely. That's what I plan on addressing with her next. She needs to see a counselor or therapist in order for this to continue. She needs to be responsible more managing her own daily life and personal issues. Relationships become a nightmare when you feel like you're all of a sudden babysitting your partner. It's like they can't do anything on their own, without your opinion, help, action etc. It's emotionally, physically, and time consuming. And when I do have free time, I'm absolutely exhausted from tending to her.
We can all do nice things for each other in a relationship to help out. It becomes a very different thing when it's a requirement and they're completely co-dependant.