I know your heart is getting tugged on awful hard right now. That's because you are a living, breathing, caring person. You feel he needs you and that too is understandable. You don't want to abandon him. We get it. We codies often need to feel needed and have a hard time letting go. But there comes a point with active addiction where the closest person to them gets just as sick as the addict; sometimes even more. I've found about one of the best things I can do is to somehow let go, love from a distance and pray for people because I believe in the power of prayer. If you don't believe in prayer....well, maybe just try to send out some healing thoughts his way. He's going to have be the one to actually stop drinking and no amount of fighting about it is going to make him stop.