Originally Posted by Lostinthismess

I met my stbxah 26yrs ago. He was an alcoholic then and still is now. He’s been a dry drunk, he is a high functioning alcoholic but he’s an alcoholic. Ask yourself if you’re prepared to come second to alcohol, if your answer is no then stay away. There’s nothing you can do or say to change any alcoholic, only they can change themselves. Moments like you’re having are a normal part of letting go. Please try to remember that you must put your needs first, he’s already shown you that he’s put his needs before yours. I don’t like saying that and I know how it feels to realize that alcohol comes before you.