you aren't divorcing in the court of PUBLIC OPINION....remember that.
and don't most/all of us put on an outside persona? i don't know about you, but i am a "different" person at work......it is expected that i behave in a certain way. even when we are sick or tired or not feeling well, we svck it up and put on our brave face.
try not to build him up into this Great and Powerful Oz. he's the little man behind the curtain.