Originally Posted by
mamabear26 
Once a cheater always a cheater. It doesn't matter who, what, where, why and how
..its wrong. To seat here and try to figure out why this woman cheated him is something I'm not going to do. That has absolutely nothing to do with me. That is like trying to figure out why my AXH cheated on me, it's a waste of time. People who cheat on their spouses are weak and miserable with their lives and find any easy way out. For whatever reason why she did it, it was wrong [Period].
Hi mamabear,
I'm can see this thread is a bit upsetting for you perhaps and i'm sorry about that. I think, for me, being protective of you is more important than the other person in your life and that does need to be taken in to consideration. In no way is this personal about him though, none of us know him and only know the small portion of your story that you have shared.
As for her cheating, absolutely, it's wrong, she did it, in no way is he to "blame" for that, that's clear.
What if he was posting here and told you that little bit of his story, what would your reply be?
Maybe something like, why did you choose her, have you thought about that?
Now, that's said often here, focus back on yourself, why would you settle for a relationship that is less that you need/want/deserve. Whether that is with an emotionally distant or abusive addict or a partner that cheats.
In no way is that a negative reflection on the person per-se, in my opinion, but worth asking so that the same patterns don't follow?
I don't understand the part about why she cheated when she was the one with fertility issues, it makes zero sense, however, as I said, we only know a tiny bit of this story, she may have a whole lot of issues (attempted suicide) but that's not clear from what you posted.
I don't know, I'm no expert, I just hope you know that no one is attacking you (or him), in my view and I really hope he turns out to be a great guy and makes you happy!