Looking4Cllues....I am delighted that you are asking for reading material...lol! Because, that indicated, to me, that you are interested in looking out for your own welfare and are interested I n learning....
fortu nately, for you, we have an extensive library on alcoholism and the effects on the loved ones....a lot of them--about 100. Enough for you to read and digest o ne article every single day.....There is sooo much to learn. Knowledge is power.
Here is the link to our library (also known as the stickies..at the top of the threads)....
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...c-reading.html (Classic Reading)
You, also, might get value from reading the following book on how alcohol affects the brain.....(and, thus, behaviors)....
"The Addicted Brain" by Michael Kuhar. You can get it on amazon.com. Cheaper, if you get a used one.....