Gelfing and Cynay- you said it all! I have made my decisions based on what I think was right for me and my kids. I left b/c I did not want them to be around his craziness. I just don't know that much about steroids either- except that they are illegal, can cause aggression, anger, rage. But I don't know. I do know that my exAH has an addiction and if it is not the drinking then it is something else- always been this way for him. Even while drinking he was addicted to working out. He admits to his addictive behaviors but instead of doing somehting about it he hides behind the diagnosis and simply says- this is what we do! I have to think this thru. I have obviously not confronted him with this- not my business. And like you both said- This is a divorce- he will never be happy or like my decisions.