Does this say that what I did and how I behaved resonated with my actual real beliefs and feelings which is why i feel ok and that my previous grovelling behaviour caused my anxiety because it was so against what I really felt and believed? Or am I just a complete unfeeling cow like she told me I was.
This makes me think that you are on the right track.
In my experience, depression and anxiety were trying to tell me I was going in the wrong direction and not being true to myself. I had to learn to trust what my gut/inner guide was telling me.
I would tend to not buy into any judgements she seems to have of you.