Hi, Exodus--glad you found SR. It's a big, wonderful forum full of inspiration and support for anyone dealing with drug or alcohol addiction, their own or someone else's.
You might find it helpful to check into the "Friends and Family" section of the forum here
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/
to read both the "sticky" section at the very top of the page (kind of a boot camp education for friends and family of alcoholics) as well as the individual threads posted by members who've been in your shoes or are there now.
There is help for you. Hope you keep reading and posting.