Your AV has blinders on. Altruistic love is not a new idea. Gandhi, Buddha, the Dalai Lama, and Jesus have all said it better I would think. Tell your AV to get out more.
And yes, 'why don't you have a drink, you can always go back' is AV of the purest form. You can be sure that if the advice from your AV would keep you sober, it wouldn't give it to you. Good catch there.