Originally Posted by
KatieNoPockets 
He needs to commit to himself and commit to sobriety. My boundary is clear that I cannot allow my son to grow up in chaos.
That is one of my boundaries for my wife... she must maintain/follow her recovery plan which includes taking the required medication and following up with the doctors/therapists.
Best advice I could offer is what I do with my wife.. just be supportive of their efforts, understanding of what they are struggling with, and forgive the small transgressions which are more likely due to the effects of recovery.
My wife's day consists of much of what she wants to do for herself, along with what is expected of her for sobriety. She attends a couple meetings a day, goes to the gym, does some home chores and outside errands for her/me, and then takes some time for herself before making dinner for the family. She very much feels in control of her life and has the time to enjoy some of the pleasures of what she wants.