Originally Posted by
Winefreegal 
That was me last night! I would not have caved had my cousin not come around! I feel stupid not been able to stand up to her
Maybe it's not your cousin you need to stand up to, but your own AV. Unless your cousin held you down and poured the drink in that is.
I got better when I start owning responsibility for my own actions. I was full of rationalisations (excuses) for taking the first drink for so, so long. Once I saw through my own bullpoop I stood some chance of changing things. While I just played my blame game I just lined myself up for more of the same.
BB