thank you for your comment trailmix!
We decided to stay friend because we enjoy everything about each other. We just realized that this is something we could not agree on and it is a deal breaker when it comes to a relationship.
I know this might lead to feeling of hurt in the future, but he is the only friend I have in my life so losing my relationship with him and his friendship would be a little to hard to handle at the moment.
I'm making sure to keep him in the friend zone. that way there is no relapsing (in a romantic sense) I'm guessing we will just slowly drift apart and find new people that make us happy, and surprisingly i'm totally ok with that right now.