Hi NA,
Sorry that had to happen, you did the right thing in my opinion.
First of all, as you already know, using cocaine is A BIG DEAL, him trying to convince you or being disbelieving when you don't agree is a huge red flag.
That's what trust is. You don't ask questions. If you trusted me we wouldn't be having this conversation
Huh? Trust is not that cut and dried. It is also earned and he basically withheld important information from you, because he knew you wouldn't like the information. That's not someone that's trustworthy.
"he said he learned a lot about me that night and knows it was for the best"
That comment is just cruel and manipulative, in my opinion. Oh I found out what YOU are like so it's so much better we aren't in a relationship.
Really?
He found out you aren't going to put up with his drug use, that's what he found out and I would guess the only reason he even confessed before you moved in together is that he wouldn't be as good at hiding it as he has been and figured you would see it so he better confess.
Anyway, i'm sure it is tough for you and i'm glad you are doing what is right for you.
Do you think it's a good idea to stay in contact with him right now?