It is a progressive disease. Their AV will tell them to drink wine instead of beer (duh, wine has higher alcohol content?), only drink at weekends, only have 2 which becomes 12, drink one beer, one water, one beer, have a break for a week etc, all sorts of supposed limitations on the drinking. But they never work, the reality is that they have to stop completely, not even ONE.
My RAH did all of those tricks and it would start off as a few this week, the next week a few more, following week 4 times a week out, then eventually, off the wagon completely with binging, vomiting, sleeping in till the afternoons, etc. It never ends well unless they work a program.
As for you, if you are counting, marking bottles etc, you are already on the crazy train and need to get yourself off before it destroys you. You are probably co dependent. Read, Melodie Beatties Co-Dependent No more book.
Stop covering for him, policing him, etc.
Remember you
Cannot cure him, cannot control him and do not make him drink. He had to come to that realisation.
You must join Al-Anon to get the support you need.