He said he did a lot of research and found that it isn't as bad as i think and i tried to ask if we can make a rule that he doesn't bring it into the house if we live together. he said he doesn't like setting rules and it just makes him want to rebel. He even said " I really like coke its fun, especially when drinking" our feeling for each other has kind of dwindled before he told me this
What he is saying is that he isn't about to quit any time soon and he's going to try to convince you that "you're" the one who is messed up. Living with active addiction is a nightmare beyond your worst horror. It is progressive, it gets worse quickly and you put yourself in great danger, physically and financially and legally.
Are you prepared to lose everything financially for him?
Are you prepared to go to jail for him?
Are you prepared to hide from "the wrong people" if he messes with them (like my son did)?
I rarely try to influence the choices of others but if you were my daughter or friend I would beg you to run for the hills while you can. It just isn't going to get better any time soon.
Good luck.