I found early sobriety made me mad at the world and everyone around me. I was on the verge of exploding every second of the day. My wife can get on my nerves as I can on hers.
I found if I was mad at her it was best to take a step back and try to clear my head/let it pass. Typically I'd find that I was blowing things out of proportion.
tbh I don't care is she wants to go out with some friends for the night. If I don't feel like going I send her out with her friends. I had to isolate myself and I didn't want that to drag her down also. I'm 13+ months sober now and I still don't like to go out dancing like we used to. She gets board, I trust her, and she goes out sometimes.
That said there is no drinking and driving, that isn't good.