Sorry you are going through this Horn and kudos for your wonderfully honest post. It really is difficult facing true facts once we become sober. Sometimes we've been blurring reality for so long that we lose track of why we needed to in the first place. Then it hits us between the eyes, and we can't turn to alcohol to mask it, which would only make things worse. It's likely every one of us who choose sobriety have had to go through this at some point. While I do agree with all those who say No major life changes in the first year of sobriety, I also have to believe our sobriety should be priority one, and if your wife's behavior begins triggering a relapse then it would be wise to take some sort of action.