I did give her an ultimatum of sorts for the same reason, and that's pretty much why we separated. It just made her drink and go out more
no, it didnt make her drink and go out more.
it gave her an excuse to drink and go out more.
she may need to know theres a problem, but getting that message through to someone in denial is impossible.
many years before i got sober, my sons mother came over to have a talk with me- she wanted to tell me how my drinking had been effecting my relationship with my son and it was showing in him.
i agreed with everything she said through the time.sat there and chatted a bit.
then said,"hey, i gotta run up to the store for a 12 pack- need anything?"
its impossible to help someone that doesnt want it or isnt ready for help.