Originally Posted by
ChucktownMC 
Can you please elaborate on enabling her by being there in ways I’m not aware of? That would be extemely helpful. Thank you!
One of the biggest things I did to enable my XAH was to keep his "secrets".... and I worked so hard at keeping up the appearances of the perfect little family. I didn't do that solely to protect him, although that was part of it, but I also had my own prideful(and codie) reasons for wanting everything to look perfect when it really was NOT. It was a very messy and unhealthy situation. It definitely was not honest.
Congrats on your sobriety, I have great respect for the addicts who do the hard work it takes to regain their health.