Sorry. I just thought of another thing I want to add. It's not neant to sway one way or another or to scare you. More like a heads up in case you do decide to leave and you encounter this
I have a close friend who told me it would be cruel for me to not stay with my AH should he seek treatment. In her words he would stop drinking and everything would be fine except you would have to avoid places with alcohol and friends who like to drink. (Ironically he mostly drinks at home and doesn't really have friends, nor do I here) She obviously knows nothing about recovery and what it is actually like for either party. I was pissed when she said it, and now I don't discuss it with her anymore.