Welcome. My husband has been sober for 10 monthes and I daily contemplate divorcing him. I also still worry that tomarrow he may decide to drink again no matter how committed he says he is to staying sober. He has not and is not available emotionally or physically. It is a hard life staying married and trying to instruct someone on how to be a partner. It really isn't my responsibility. Soberity itself does not make a marriage. I think it's wise to act on red flags that you see in your relationship and your counselor seems correct on the quality list. I think communication and honesty to a spouse is an important quality as long as he's not abusive. There's two different topics not being happy and divorce. Since you are still contemplating divorce I wouldn't bring up divorce until you're certain that you are prepared and .done.