Hedd I have no suggestions but I must say I got a lot out of gottalife's post, thanks for that share.
I was thinking lately about the small resentments I carry around about people who I believe are not doing the right thing. It's such a pain and I hate it and it seems I have little control over it but I suspect I do and taking the path of forgiveness towards them as Gottalife illustrated with his very insightful story is I know deep down I am reluctant to go.
I wish you all the best as Dave put it as our biggest obstacle. Thanks for posting.
CaiHong