Thanks for sharing, Steve!
Right now I am walking a tightrope between placing myself in healthy environments while trying to avoid projecting my own issues onto others, then running from them. Givenup had a really good point a couple of posts ago!!!
I had one of our priests tell me several months ago, that when we are discontent with where we live, etc..., that we are projecting something that is really a struggle against something within ourselves that we don't like. This sounds very close to what we learn in the programs.
Sounds like you and your wife really tried to hang in there. I would imagine leaving was a hard decision.