Originally Posted by
thephoenixrises 
I’m trying to put that to rest-that he will most likely not ever take ownership for his stuff.
Yes, there can be no validation from a narcissist. He won't read that like you meant it.
If his ego is hurt by it you will become the bad guy - look at all these hurtful things she said about me! Hmm can't be me, must be her! (sound familiar).
People high on the narcissism scale thrive on positive reinforcement from others to feed their ego, which they are not capable of "feeding" themselves, they look to the outside for that. Horrible way to be (for them and for everyone who comes in contact with them).
As for clarity, you tried! He side-stepped and would just continue to do that. To admit to lying, making up stories about situations - won't happen, can't happen.
How many times did he admit fault to you? Apologize?