Originally Posted by
Spence7471 
Most addicts will not see the ones they love as people... rather a tool... to be used and manipulated to get what they want. They are often emotionally unavailable except for the purpose of manipulation. It is only once they become clean that they (may) feel remorse and guilt and shame for their past actions...
So true. It hurts me knowing i counted on him for genuine love and support, but all along I was just a tool to be used. Reading other forums and getting advice on here has been helping me heal tremendously.