Hi, Rpb.
Welcome.
If you read around the friends and Family ly forums, you will see similar stories to yours.
Often heard from the addict:”
This is who I am. Why can’t you accept that?
You have done nothing to help me get better.
Why can’t you accept me?
I need you to help me get sober.
I miss you.
I love you.
Basically, he is blowing smoke, as all addicts do when it looks like their loved one is moving on.
Let him go. Don’t feel guilty. He has made his choices.