I don't, I CAN'T believe each and every one is a failure? Most things I read, I just had my second session with a counselor, alot of what I'm coming across and people I'm talking to all say just to head for the hills and run! Just save myself and run. Feels like me wanting to have "hope" is a bad thing and completely pointless.
Realistically success rates are low. Sustained success is even lower. I worked with alcoholics trying to recover and out of all of them.....every single one who truly wanted to get sober only one managed it and even he had a few blips. Getting sober is very hard work. Staying sober even harder. It's not wrong to hope but it would be wrong to put your life on hold while you are hoping. I hoped for 20 years that my now exah would get sober. I wasted 20 years of my life cos he never did and 4 year post divorce he never has.