Originally Posted by
London393 
Feels like me wanting to have "hope" is a bad thing and completely pointless.
I still want to live a life believing, and having faith and hope.
Living on hope takes on much pain if the other person is not doing the hard work. There will be little gained and a ton of work. It is a long slow process if the person does not want a recovery process other than just giving up the substance. That will change very little without internal work and external change. This work will not be chosen by everyone. Including the partners effected by another person's habits.