Originally Posted by
Gilmer 
That Seneca quote really resonates with me, too.
the Stoics are quite good sort this sort of thing:
"People are disturbed not by things, but by their response to them" - Epictetus
which in turn formed the basis for some of REBT (forerunner of CBT), in particular the A-B-C tool, which is worth a read if you haven't seen it before:
http://livingunbound.net/lessons-res...-therapy-rebt/
it's a way of looking at
why we get anxious, angry, etc. about things, & whether, rationally, we need to do so. I use it all the time, not just for recovery stuff, but as a dealing-with-life tool too.