Sigh . . . London. It doesn't look like you are dealing with someone engaged in Recovery.
Might be time to come up with a plan for detaching, grieving, circling the wagons of support for yourself . . . . and more grieving and more grieving and more grieving . . . .ugh, this sucks beyond anything. (Circling the wagons is a term in the US referring to Pioneers and wagon trains)
This is not fun and many of us have had to leave when our qualifiers don't obtain recovery.
I left my qualifier before there was internet and before there were cell phones. Best thing I've ever done. I know this isn't right for everyone; However years later I met up with him and he told me I did the absolutley right thing.