Thanks FireSprite, feel free to disagree anytime...
You are correct that that is no way to have a marriage, and I do not plan on continuing one under such conditions indefinitely. However, we all have rules to follow by in any relationship... most are simply a given and do not need to be voiced as it is part of showing respect (i.e call if you are going to be late, etc...). I want to get back to such a place with my wife.. a partnership where mutual respect and trust are given. However, we are not there yet and if she expects to get said respect and trust, it is doing little things like following rules that will help get us there. Time will tell whether we get there...
Will have a look at that link you provided.