exactly- how to move forward.
we can see differently, but for me, moving forward starts with owning MY part.then making amends.
We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
heres a little from the 8th step in the NA book:
In preparing to make the Eighth Step list, it is helpful to define harm. One definition of harm is physical or mental damage. Another definition of harm is inflicting pain, suffering or loss. The damage may be caused by something that is said, done or left undone, and the harm resulting from these words or actions may be either intentional or unintentional.
A problem many of us have with the Eighth Step and the admission of the harm is the belief that we were victims, not victimizers.
Avoiding this rationalization is crucial to the Eighth Step. We must separate what was done to us from what we did. We cut away all our justifications and all our ideas of being a victim. We often feel that we only harmed ourselves, yet we usually list ourselves last, if at all. This step is doing the leg work to repair the wreckage of our lives.
the basic text of NA can be found here on SR
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...asic-text.html (Read: The NA Book - The Basic Text)