Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
and you can't think of another way to distract yourself? or find other healthy activities??
you stated being absolutely grief stricken and blindsided by your H's actions. unsure of how you feel or what to do.
meanwhile, you are trying to go out on a few dates with other men. all just seems a bit quick, eh?
I'm with Anvil on this one. One day being overwhelmed with indescribable grief, then the next day talking about going out on a date. I understand that after being with him for 18 years in those circumstances was not pleasant, looking for outside validation for your self-esteem isn't exactly the best way to feel good about who you are.
A 'date' and 'going out to dinner with a friend' are two different things in my opinion. Unless they've changed the definition of a date in the last 13.5 years that I've been married. To me, going out on a date, while still married, would still be considered cheating.
COD