Great and important and powerful point.
I do a lot of training in my professional life and on almost all of my courses there is some time spent on react vs respond which is irony itself I suppose. I can teach the stuff and adhere to it in a professional or corporate arena but didn’t fare so well in my own private life.
Anyway,
It’s so simple to process but can be difficult to master.
The way I break it down is this.
Every single time I have “reacted” I end up with an apology to make to someone.
This is never the case when I take a second to choose my “response”