Ladybird...I can appreciate your position....you do so much caretaking, any way...it just becomes give...give...give.... It would wear anyone out! Too much outgoing without much incoming...lol....
Maybe, think more in the direction of some activity where you and the others are on an equal footing.......Like, where you and others meet up to share/do some interest that you all have in common....
I like hearing that you are trying to reach out and make changes for yourself....that is actually how positive c hange comes about....