Hi Ghoster, you have what it takes to stop drinking, right there inside you! I too spent years writing out tapering plans, sobriety plans....ad infinitum.....but what it takes is a monumental (as in your heart and soul) decision to stop and the INACTION (don’t drink) backed up by ACTION (whatever will make you feel more comfortable and happier). But central to this inaction /action is that, not drinking takes precedence, no matter what else happens in your life.
Because sometimes things do suck, but once you’ve decided not to drink, it matters not what happens around you. Triggers aren’t outside you, they’re in your alcohol addicted, habituated brain, so you’re in control....because you’re not the habituated brain part, you’re the brain part that can override it, really you are: because you are not your AV.