I understand her view on your blackouts,BUT(I get in trouble a bit here)..There's NO WAY someone is telling me how much I can/not drink("a couple") while they do whatever..pssshhh! How's that sit with ya? Also.. if you and she knows you have an issue with booze what's the point of going out? Just go and not drink. Simple. Can you do that?
Edit: Seriously...If you've been to AA twice on your own, you have problem with the drink. Couple that with coming here,which is a great site for finding sobriety...IF you find yourself here,IMO,you have a drinking problem. No one finds this place on accident.